In Africa we do not mourn an elder, we celebrate his passing onto the next life.
Mandela we do not mourn you, we celebrate your joining your ancestors.
The most important message i got from his journey through this earth is one of forgiveness. Without it you are still in chains/ bound to that person or situation.
I am glad i got to live in the same time as he did. I got to hear his voice as opposed to just recordings.
Mandela thank you for your sacrifice. You left the world a better place.
I saw this and i just had to share:
“If you could have a conversation with your ex: honest, without posturing, fear, baggage and accusations…would you have it?”
Lord have mercy!! Am i ready for THAT conversation? That level of honesty??
Let’s be honest: Not many of us are honest with ourselves.
That nail polish/dress/shoes/pants works for me.
I can do xxxx
I can deal with his/her rubbish.
I can do this project.
I love my job.
I’ll take care of your pet over the holidays.
I love hanging out with you and your family.
Yes i can host the party this year.
I can go on and on with this.
Snce we know the talk with the ex is unlikely to happen or our family is likely to be brutally honest with us, why don’t we take some time off and have it with ourselves or else with a counsellor. Someone who is trained in this in helping people will make all the difference between “real healing” and “repeating”. And no one wants to make the same mistake over and over again, right?
Allow yourself to make mistakes and some of the decisions we make won’t always work out the way we want them to. The trick is to learn from them and move on. Do not flog a dead horse.
Making the changes to avoid making the same mistakes makes all the difference in our level and quality of happiness in addition to getting us to be the person we were meant to be.
Don’t wait for a conversation the ex. It won’t happen.
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